Tips for the first date and beyond. Red flags, hookups, communication, sabotaging behavior, and more...
Have you been told, “Stop yelling at me,” when you didn’t feel like you were yelling? You may have even replied, “I’m not yelling, trust me, you’ll know when I am yelling.” However, what you need to hear is that you don’t have to raise your voice to be yelling …
A lot of single people search for someone who’s “never been married”. I certainly do understand the romantic notion that you could be each other’s first marriage. However, as you get older it’s harder and harder to find people who have never taken vows; and you undoubtedly find many people …
Many highly successful people have tremendous confidence but low self-esteem. Do you know the difference? Self-esteem and self-confidence frequently get mistaken for one another, but they are two separate things. Self-confidence is the belief in one’s ability to do something, such as managing a business, speaking in public, playing sports, or even …
Being negligent or insensitive with a lover’s feelings or worse intentionally hurting them is mean, and can cause you a lot of unnecessary grief. Being on the receiving end of uncaring actions is typically what leads a jilted lover to obsessive and even stalking behaviors. So protect yourself from future …
You frequently hear that opposites attract but then also hear that like attracts like. Which is better? If you’re a follower of my blog then you know that I believe commonality is crucial to making a relationship last long-term. You need to have common ethics, values, and goals — similar …
There is no guarantee to see each other again if you have sex on the first date. So if it’s going really well and you decide to have sex that first night, be really clear that you may be choosing a one night stand. If that’s not ok with you, …
If you’re feeling like you’re not good enough for the person you’re dating then he or she will ultimately decide that too. Because you are what you think you are. Your behavior, actions, and insecurities all reflect your thoughts and are transparent to your partner. So if you don’t want to lose him …
Being an open book is a sign of unhealthy boundaries. If you reveal deeply personal info about your past too soon you’re waving bright red flags to the person you’re trying to endear to you. There is a time and place for everything. The first few months of dating is supposed to be about having …
“Why are you still single?” is a commonly asked question that is essentially a backward compliment. It implies “Wow, you’re great, why doesn’t anybody want you?” The most common responses are: “I just haven’t met anyone I have chemistry with.” “The one I wanted got away.” “All the good ones …
Do you get nervous on dates? Be careful, you may be sending the wrong message to your date — that you’re not interested. The most common reason people get nervous is because they want their date to like them. Unfortunately, that is usually what causes the date to fail. If you …
If you know what red flags to look for in the beginning of a relationship then you can make a better decision about who is a keeper and who is just fun for right now. When you observe red flag behavior don’t ignore it. I promise you it will get worse if …
The question, “Why are you still single?” is highly inappropriate because it implies, “What’s wrong with you?” But try not to take offense to it and please don’t defend yourself. Simply respond with an empowered answer. You absolutely do not need to explain the details of why you haven’t gotten married yet. Bottom …
Being late tells the person you’re making wait for you that you don’t care about his or her feelings, and that you don’t respect their time. It lowers their opinion of you. When you’re late for a date, especially if it’s a first date, you risk making your date angry, and you’re certainly …
Yes, dating is very different now (if you were married for a long time) and I understand your desire to just jump into another relationship for the safety of it. However, going out on lots of dates is actually good for you — it will help you learn new things …
Anything that you do frequently you’ll get better at. Practice makes perfect, right? It’s no different with dating. As you go out with a lot of different people you begin to stop getting nervous, you become less self-conscious, and it helps you stay grounded. All which then help you make …
