In dating, first impressions are largely about looks. Especially if you meet on a dating app. But when it comes to creating a good relationship, looks don’t make you happy. The truth is personality really is more important. I’m sure you’ve met a really attractive person who was not very …
10 Rules of Dating
My clients frequently ask me, “What are the rules of dating?” Well, I’m not a fan of dating rules because they tend to make you seem phony and when broken can damage your self-esteem. Instead, I teach my clients how to maintain healthy boundaries, express themselves properly, take care of …
Know And Enforce Your Deal Breakers
People reveal themselves if you’re paying attention. So if you know and enforce your deal breakers it can be really easy to avoid heartbreak. Of course, that’s easier said than done when you’re really hot for someone. As a breakup coach, I talk to a lot of heartbroken clients who …
How To Avoid Bad Dating Advice From Friends
Being single can be frustrating for many reasons. The annoyance of having to put up with everyone else’s opinion about your love life makes singledom even worse. This nosey concern is typically followed by well-meaning tips to help you find “your person.” However, being in a relationship doesn’t make you qualified to …
“I’ve Never Felt This Way Before” Can Be a Huge Red Flag
Love is hard to find, so when you hear, “I’ve never felt this way before” you may think you’ve finally found “the one”. But have you? Be careful — it may mean you’re heading for disappointing heartbreak. If you’ve dated a lot but have never truly fallen in love before you have …
Are You The Rebound?
You always hear that you’re not supposed to talk about past relationships when you first start dating someone new. However, the one exception to that rule is to find out whether he/she is truly available for a new relationship or if you’re just the rebound. Ask permission to ask by saying, “Can I ask …
Do Opposites Attract or Is Commonality Better?
You frequently hear that opposites attract but then also hear that like attracts like. So which is it? Do opposites attract or is commonality better? If you’re a follower of my blog then you know that I believe commonality is crucial to making a relationship last long-term. You need to …
How to Know Who is RIGHT for You
How do you decide who is right for you? You may think your attraction to a person depends on how hot, sweet, or successful he or she is. But the psychology behind our romantic choices says our attraction is based on our unresolved childhood wounds. Subconsciously, we choose partners with …
How to Keep a New Relationship
How do you keep a new relationship? You need to live in the present. Put your attention on what is immediately in front of you and take it at face value. Your imagination is not your friend in relationships. You’ve probably already heard that you’re not supposed to start fantasizing …