Be Careful With Other’s Feelings

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Being negligent or insensitive with a lover’s feelings or worse intentionally hurting them is mean, and can cause you a lot of unnecessary grief. Being on the receiving end of uncaring actions is typically what leads a jilted lover to obsessive and even stalking behaviors. So protect yourself from future …

Are You The Rebound?

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You always hear that you’re not supposed to talk about past relationships when you first start dating someone new. However, the one exception to that rule is to find out whether he/she is truly available for a new relationship or if you’re just the rebound. Ask permission to ask by saying, “Can I ask …

10 Texting Rules to Help Your Relationship

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I’m not a fan of rules for relationships but texting is one of the worst ways to communicate with a lover. It’s lazy and vague. The true meaning is left up to the reader’s interpretation. As a relationship coach, I have spent far too much time trying to calm down a …

Signs Your Single-Self Is Too Picky

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“Why are you still single?” is a commonly asked question that is essentially a backward compliment. It implies “Wow, you’re great, why doesn’t anybody want you?” The most common responses are: “I just haven’t met anyone I have chemistry with.” “The one I wanted got away.” “All the good ones …

5 Tips to Handle First Date Nerves

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Do you get nervous on dates? Be careful, you may be sending the wrong message to your date — that you’re not interested. The most common reason people get nervous is because they want their date to like them. Unfortunately, that is usually what causes the date to fail. If you …

How to Respond to “Why are you still single?”

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The question, “Why are you still single?” is highly inappropriate because it implies, “What’s wrong with you?” But try not to take offense to it and please don’t defend yourself. Simply respond with an empowered answer. You absolutely do not need to explain the details of why you haven’t gotten married yet. Bottom …

What Being Late Says About You

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Being late tells the person you’re making wait for you that you don’t care about his or her feelings, and that you don’t respect their time. It lowers their opinion of you. When you’re late for a date, especially if it’s a first date, you risk making your date angry, and you’re certainly …

Dating After Divorce

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Yes, dating is very different now (if you were married for a long time) and I understand your desire to just jump into another relationship for the safety of it. However, going out on lots of dates is actually good for you — it will help you learn new things …

How to Turn a Hook Up Into a Relationship

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Hooking up with someone you’re crazy about becomes lonely and frustrating if it doesn’t move forward and become a full relationship. Well, nothing changes if nothing changes; you need to stop having sex so you can get your other needs met. You teach people how to treat you. By just hooking …

Dating for Practice

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Anything that you do frequently you’ll get better at. Practice makes perfect, right? It’s no different with dating. As you go out with a lot of different people you begin to stop getting nervous, you become less self-conscious, and it helps you stay grounded. All which then help you make …

An Open Book is Not Sexy

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A first date is supposed to be about enjoying each other’s company and finding out if you have chemistry and commonality…but also making sure you don’t do anything to turn your date off. Talking too much or revealing too much too soon is a turn-off. If your date ends up …

Are You Being Attentive Enough on Dates?

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If you’re too shy or uncomfortable to hold eye contact with someone you like then your body language is saying the opposite of what you feel. Your date will assume you’re just not into them. First dates can be scary and cause people to behave in nervous ways that send …

Complaints & Cynicism Are Negative Red Flags

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Energy is contagious. People want to surround themselves with positive people. If you complain a lot, are cynical, or are a hater you’re waving a major red flag to your date, and draining your date’s positive energy. You may not even recognize that you’re being negative. It’s common to complain …

How to Know Who is RIGHT for You

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You may think your attraction to a person depends on how hot, sweet, or successful he or she is. But the psychology behind our romantic choices says our attraction is based on our unresolved childhood wounds. Subconsciously, we choose partners with the same personality traits, and even physicality, of the …

Meeting For Drinks for a First Date

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If he or she has more than two drinks on your first date that’s a bad sign. If he or she has four or more drinks in a short period of time, that’s a bright red flag. Especially if he or she holds it well (doesn’t behave like a drunk). …