Pay Attention to Clues of Bad Behavior (Red Flags)

Pay Attention to Clues of Bad Behavior (Red Flags)

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After a breakup I always ask my clients if they know what went wrong. Just about all of them can point to at least one thing that happened that foreshadowed their breakup, they just didn’t pay attention to those clues of bad behavior. You can save yourself a lot of heartache and also time …

I've Never Felt This Way Before” Can Be a Huge Red Flag

“I’ve Never Felt This Way Before” Can Be a Huge Red Flag

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Love is hard to find, so when you hear, “I’ve never felt this way before” you may think you’ve finally found “the one”. But have you? Be careful — it may mean you’re heading for disappointing heartbreak. If you’ve dated a lot but have never truly fallen in love before you have …

Insecurity is All in Your Head

Insecurity Is All In Your Head

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Everyone is insecure on some level. We can feel unwanted, unloved, unappreciated, inadequate, undeserving, neglected, and so on. Fear is mostly to blame. We fear abandonment, betrayal, intimacy, commitment, etc.  But all of our fears and insecurities are created by our thoughts. Which means, insecurity is all in your head. …

5 Examples of Inappropriate Boundaries

5 Examples of Inappropriate Boundaries

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Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t give you permission to be part of everything in their life. Time apart from each other is actually necessary to keep you both happy, and snooping is never helpful. Do you know if you have inappropriate boundaries? Part of having healthy boundaries is accepting your …

Don't Reject When Feeling Rejected

Don’t Reject When Feeling Rejected

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It’s a defense mechanism to reject someone you’re feeling rejected by. But if you’re feeling rejected by the person you’re in a relationship with you need to resist that instinct and instead communicate how you’re feeling. You need to find out what you don’t know before you create a problem …

5 Tips to Handle First Date Nerves

5 Tips to Handle First Date Nerves

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Do you get nervous on dates? Be careful, you may be sending the wrong message to your date — that you’re not interested. The most common reason people get nervous is because they want their date to like them. Unfortunately, that is usually what causes the date to fail. If you …

Instinct or Paranoia?

Instinct or Paranoia? How To Tell

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How do you feel when your partner isn’t with you? Do you worry about who he or she may potentially meet, or might be spending time with? Do you frequently call or text to check-up? Do you need constant contact and reassurance of his or her feelings for you? Should …

Stop making excuses for your lover

Stop Making Excuses for Your Lover

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Stop making excuses for your lover. People do what they want to do. If you always remind yourself of that, it really is quite simple. As caring beings, we usually like to give people the benefit of the doubt. We frequently conjure up pleasant scenarios to explain away undesirable behavior: …

Don't Test Your Partner

Don’t Test Your Partner

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Do you test your partner to see how much s/he loves you? Or to see how he’ll respond in a particular emotional circumstance? If so, are you aware that you’re playing dangerous games? Playing games in a relationship doesn’t work. Games create competition, and a winner and loser. Playing games is …