Insecurity Is All In Your Head

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Everyone is insecure on some level. We can feel unwanted, unloved, unappreciated, inadequate, undeserving, neglected, and so on. Fear is mostly to blame. We fear abandonment, betrayal, intimacy, commitment, etc.  But all of our fears and insecurities are created by our thoughts. Which makes it all in our heads. Our thoughts …

5 Examples of Inappropriate Boundaries

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Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t give you permission to be part of everything in their life. Time apart from each other is actually necessary to keep you both happy, and snooping is never helpful. So how appropriate are your boundaries? Part of having healthy boundaries is accepting your partner’s boundaries …

Don’t Reject When Feeling Rejected

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It’s a defense mechanism to reject someone you feel rejected by. But if you’re feeling rejected by the person you’re in a relationship with you need to resist that instinct and communicate how you’re feeling. You need to find out what you don’t know. We tend to take everything personally when …

Dating Out of Your League

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If you’re feeling like you’re not good enough for the person you’re dating then he or she will ultimately decide that too. Because you are what you think you are. Your behavior, actions, and insecurities all reflect your thoughts and are transparent to your partner. So if you don’t want to lose him …

5 Tips to Handle First Date Nerves

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Do you get nervous on dates? Be careful, you may be sending the wrong message to your date — that you’re not interested. The most common reason people get nervous is because they want their date to like them. Unfortunately, that is usually what causes the date to fail. If you …

Instinct or Paranoia? How To Tell

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How do you feel when your partner isn’t with you? Do you worry about who he or she may potentially meet, or might be spending time with? Do you frequently call or text to check-up? Do you need constant contact and reassurance of his or her feelings for you? How …

Don’t Ask Don’t Tell When Dating

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When you first start dating someone it is actually healthy to keep dating other people. It will help keep you grounded and prevent you from focusing all your energy on one person…which frequently causes unrealistic expectations and pushes him or her away. When you have a great date with someone …

Stop Making Excuses for Your Lover

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People do what they want to do. If you always remind yourself of that, it really is quite simple. As caring beings, we usually like to give people the benefit of the doubt. We frequently conjure up pleasant scenarios to explain away undesirable behavior: “he’s really busy at work,” “she’s …

Don’t Test Your Partner

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Playing games in a relationship doesn’t work. Games create competition, and a winner and loser. Playing games is manipulative and a way to avoid intimacy. Some people think game playing does make things more interesting. It’s considered cool if you have “game”. But interesting doesn’t mean healthy. Game playing is …