My clients frequently ask me, “What are the rules of dating?” Well, I’m not a fan of dating rules because they tend to make you seem phony and when broken can damage your self-esteem. Instead, I teach my clients how to maintain healthy boundaries, express themselves properly, take care of …
Know And Enforce Your Deal Breakers
People reveal themselves if you’re paying attention. So if you know and enforce your deal breakers it can be really easy to avoid heartbreak. Of course, that’s easier said than done when you’re really hot for someone. As a breakup coach, I talk to a lot of heartbroken clients who …
Allow Yourself to Be Vulnerable
I know that it can be incredibly scary to allow yourself to be vulnerable and share your feelings. However, if you want a long-lasting relationship you need to be able to express your inner thoughts and feelings to your partner, and be able to listen to his/her wants and needs. Ask yourself, “What’s the …
Are You The Rebound?
You always hear that you’re not supposed to talk about past relationships when you first start dating someone new. However, the one exception to that rule is to find out whether he/she is truly available for a new relationship or if you’re just the rebound. Ask permission to ask by saying, “Can I ask …
When & How to Reveal Your Past Hardships
Being an open book is a sign of unhealthy boundaries. If you reveal deeply personal info about your past too soon you’re waving bright red flags to the person you’re trying to endear to you. Be smart about when and how you reveal your past hardships. There is a time and place for everything. The …
Signs Your Single-Self Is Too Picky
“Why are you still single?” is a commonly asked question that is essentially a backward compliment. It implies “Wow, you’re great, why doesn’t anybody want you?” The most common responses are: “I just haven’t met anyone I have chemistry with.” “The one I wanted got away.” “All the good ones …
How to Respond to “Why are you still single?”
The question, “Why are you still single?” is highly inappropriate because it implies, “What’s wrong with you?” But try not to take offense to it and please don’t defend yourself. Simply respond with an empowered answer. You absolutely do not need to explain the details of why you haven’t gotten married yet. Bottom …
Should I Invite Him to Meet My Parents?
HOLIDAY ADVICE “What are you doing for the holidays?” can be a loaded question in a new relationship. Should you spend it together? Should you be upset if you don’t? How soon is too soon to invite him to meet my parents? First, you should evaluate your relationship. Are you …
Appropriate First Date Conversation?
You want your date to get to know you, right? But how soon should you reveal personal details? What is appropriate first date conversation? The first date should be fun. It should be about finding out if you enjoy each other’s company. If you dive into all your deep dark secrets …
How to Have Healthy Boundaries
Having healthy boundaries means knowing your inner feelings, wants, needs, and limits, as well as fulfilling and enforcing them without hurting others. That means finding your true self and protecting it, no matter what, without needing anyone else’s approval. Enforcing healthy boundaries means not letting anyone else change what you know is right for …
Timing of a New Relationship
It’s exciting to be swept off your feet and have a whirlwind love affair. But if you feel like the relationship could have long-term potential, you need to take it slow and let true feelings evolve. The timing of a new relationship is very important. Rushing into relationships is a …