Everyone is insecure on some level. We can feel unwanted, unloved, unappreciated, inadequate, undeserving, neglected, and so on. Fear is mostly to blame. We fear abandonment, betrayal, intimacy, commitment, etc. Â But all of our fears and insecurities are created by our thoughts. Which means, insecurity is all in your head. …
5 Examples of Inappropriate Boundaries
Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t give you permission to be part of everything in their life. Time apart from each other is actually necessary to keep you both happy, and snooping is never helpful. Do you know if you have inappropriate boundaries? Part of having healthy boundaries is accepting your …
Don’t Reject When Feeling Rejected
It’s a defense mechanism to reject someone you’re feeling rejected by. But if you’re feeling rejected by the person you’re in a relationship with you need to resist that instinct and instead communicate how you’re feeling. You need to find out what you don’t know before you create a problem …
Instinct or Paranoia? How To Tell
How do you feel when your partner isn’t with you? Do you worry about who he or she may potentially meet, or might be spending time with? Do you frequently call or text to check-up? Do you need constant contact and reassurance of his or her feelings for you? Should …
Don’t Ask Don’t Tell When Dating
When you first start dating someone it is actually healthy to keep dating other people. It will help keep you grounded and prevent you from focusing all your energy on one person—which frequently causes unrealistic expectations and pushes him or her away. When you have a great date with someone …
Stop Making Excuses for Your Lover
Stop making excuses for your lover. People do what they want to do. If you always remind yourself of that, it really is quite simple. As caring beings, we usually like to give people the benefit of the doubt. We frequently conjure up pleasant scenarios to explain away undesirable behavior: …