It sounds so simple and stupid but it’s arguably the most important saying you need to remember. If you want something to change, you need to initiate change, because nothing changes if nothing changes. Especially when it comes to relationships. If you want your partner to change, you need to …
How Do You Feel About Me?
Are you thinking about asking the person you’re dating, “How do you feel about me?” Let me save you from a potentially very awkward conversation that could end your relationship. There is no need to ever ask that question, you just need to pay attention to his or her behavior …
Being Impulsive Is Not Smart
Thinking on your feet and responding immediately is not helpful to your relationship. I know many people are proud of having that ability to always have a quick comeback. I used to be one of them. But I now know that being impulsive is not smart. Do you remember the …
Allow Yourself to Be Vulnerable
I know that it can be incredibly scary to allow yourself to be vulnerable and share your feelings. However, if you want a long-lasting relationship you need to be able to express your inner thoughts and feelings to your partner, and be able to listen to his/her wants and needs. Ask yourself, “What’s the …
Falling in Love Too Fast Isn’t Good
Do you fall in love easily? When you first start dating someone do you go “all in” and decide this is the person for you? Regardless of any actual compatibility between you, do you feel grateful he or she is showing interest in you? If you feel like you’re falling …
When to First Say I Love You
When should you first say I love you? To some degree trust your instincts. But if you’re feeling it in the first week or so, realize that your feelings are probably lust or infatuation, not true love. If you say those three little words too quickly, a healthy partner will think you’re …
Don’t Test Your Partner
Do you test your partner to see how much s/he loves you? Or to see how he’ll respond in a particular emotional circumstance? If so, are you aware that you’re playing dangerous games? Playing games in a relationship doesn’t work. Games create competition, and a winner and loser. Playing games is …