Confidence is Different Than Self-Esteem

Confidence is Different Than Self Esteem

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Many highly successful people have tremendous confidence but low self-esteem. Confidence is different than self esteem. Do you know the difference? Self-esteem and self-confidence frequently get mistaken for one another, but they are two separate things. Self-confidence is your belief in your ability to do something, such as managing a business, speaking …

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Be Careful With Others Feelings

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Being negligent or insensitive with a lover’s feelings or worse intentionally hurting them is mean, and can cause you a lot of unnecessary grief. Being on the receiving end of uncaring actions is typically what leads a jilted lover to obsessive and even stalking behaviors. So protect yourself from future …

Are You The Rebound?

Are You The Rebound?

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You always hear that you’re not supposed to talk about past relationships when you first start dating someone new. However, the one exception to that rule is to find out whether he/she is truly available for a new relationship or if you’re just the rebound. Ask permission to ask by saying, “Can I ask …

Do Opposites Attract or Is Commonality Better?

Do Opposites Attract or Is Commonality Better?

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You frequently hear that opposites attract but then also hear that like attracts like. So which is it? Do opposites attract or is commonality better? If you’re a follower of my blog then you know that I believe commonality is crucial to making a relationship last long-term. You need to …

Insecurity is All in Your Head

Insecurity Is All In Your Head

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Everyone is insecure on some level. We can feel unwanted, unloved, unappreciated, inadequate, undeserving, neglected, and so on. Fear is mostly to blame. We fear abandonment, betrayal, intimacy, commitment, etc.  But all of our fears and insecurities are created by our thoughts. Which means, insecurity is all in your head. …

Don't Get Married Younger Than 25

Don’t Get Married Younger Than 25

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Falling in love is exciting. When you think you’ve found “the one” its fun to fantasize about walking down the aisle together. Nonetheless, if you haven’t celebrated your twenty-fifth birthday yet you should not actually plan the wedding — or worse, go through with getting married. No one should get married younger than …

5 Examples of Inappropriate Boundaries

5 Examples of Inappropriate Boundaries

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Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t give you permission to be part of everything in their life. Time apart from each other is actually necessary to keep you both happy, and snooping is never helpful. Do you know if you have inappropriate boundaries? Part of having healthy boundaries is accepting your …

10 Texting Rules to Help Your Relationship

10 Texting Rules to Help Your Relationship

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I’m not a fan of rules for relationships but texting is one of the worst ways to communicate with a lover. It’s lazy and vague. The true meaning is left up to the reader’s interpretation. As a relationship coach, I have spent far too much time trying to calm down a …

Don't Reject When Feeling Rejected

Don’t Reject When Feeling Rejected

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It’s a defense mechanism to reject someone you’re feeling rejected by. But if you’re feeling rejected by the person you’re in a relationship with you need to resist that instinct and instead communicate how you’re feeling. You need to find out what you don’t know before you create a problem …

When and How to Reveal Your Past Hardships

When & How to Reveal Your Past Hardships

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Being an open book is a sign of unhealthy boundaries. If you reveal deeply personal info about your past too soon you’re waving bright red flags to the person you’re trying to endear to you. Be smart about when and how you reveal your past hardships. There is a time and place for everything. The …

Are you too picky?

Signs Your Single-Self Is Too Picky

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“Why are you still single?” is a commonly asked question that is essentially a backward compliment. It implies “Wow, you’re great, why doesn’t anybody want you?” The most common responses are: “I just haven’t met anyone I have chemistry with.” “The one I wanted got away.” “All the good ones …

5 Tips to Handle First Date Nerves

5 Tips to Handle First Date Nerves

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Do you get nervous on dates? Be careful, you may be sending the wrong message to your date — that you’re not interested. The most common reason people get nervous is because they want their date to like them. Unfortunately, that is usually what causes the date to fail. If you …