First Date or One Night Stand?

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There is no guarantee to see each other again if you have sex on the first date. So if it’s going really well and you decide to have sex that first night, be really clear that you may be choosing a one night stand. If that’s not ok with you, …

Dating Out of Your League

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If you’re feeling like you’re not good enough for the person you’re dating then he or she will ultimately decide that too. Because you are what you think you are. Your behavior, actions, and insecurities all reflect your thoughts and are transparent to your partner. So if you don’t want to lose him …

When & How to Reveal Your Past Hardships

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Being an open book is a sign of unhealthy boundaries. If you reveal deeply personal info about your past too soon you’re waving bright red flags to the person you’re trying to endear to you. There is a time and place for everything. The first few months of dating is supposed to be about having …

Signs Your Single-Self Is Too Picky

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“Why are you still single?” is a commonly asked question that is essentially a backward compliment. It implies “Wow, you’re great, why doesn’t anybody want you?” The most common responses are: “I just haven’t met anyone I have chemistry with.” “The one I wanted got away.” “All the good ones …

5 Tips to Handle First Date Nerves

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Do you get nervous on dates? Be careful, you may be sending the wrong message to your date — that you’re not interested. The most common reason people get nervous is because they want their date to like them. Unfortunately, that is usually what causes the date to fail. If you …

Red Flags You Need to Heed

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If you know what red flags to look for in the beginning of a relationship then you can make a better decision about who is a keeper and who is just fun for right now. When you observe red flag behavior don’t ignore it. I promise you it will get worse if …

How to Respond to “Why are you still single?”

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The question, “Why are you still single?” is highly inappropriate because it implies, “What’s wrong with you?” But try not to take offense to it and please don’t defend yourself. Simply respond with an empowered answer. You absolutely do not need to explain the details of why you haven’t gotten married yet. Bottom …

Are You in Love or Infatuated?

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Love at first sight is a very romantic notion and can feel absolutely real when you meet someone amazing and feel intensely attracted to each other. But the saying should be connected at first sight because true love doesn’t begin until that “I can’t get enough of you” euphoria starts to fade. …

What Being Late Says About You

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Being late tells the person you’re making wait for you that you don’t care about his or her feelings, and that you don’t respect their time. It lowers their opinion of you. When you’re late for a date, especially if it’s a first date, you risk making your date angry, and you’re certainly …

Should I Invite Him to Meet My Parents?

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HOLIDAY ADVICE “What are you doing for the holidays?” can be a loaded question in a new relationship. Should you spend it together? Should you be upset if you don’t? How soon is too soon to introduce him to your family? First, you should evaluate your relationship. Are you serious …

Dating After Divorce

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Yes, dating is very different now (if you were married for a long time) and I understand your desire to just jump into another relationship for the safety of it. However, going out on lots of dates is actually good for you — it will help you learn new things …

How to Turn a Hook Up Into a Relationship

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Hooking up with someone you’re crazy about becomes lonely and frustrating if it doesn’t move forward and become a full relationship. Well, nothing changes if nothing changes; you need to stop having sex so you can get your other needs met. You teach people how to treat you. By just hooking …

Dating for Practice

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Anything that you do frequently you’ll get better at. Practice makes perfect, right? It’s no different with dating. As you go out with a lot of different people you begin to stop getting nervous, you become less self-conscious, and it helps you stay grounded. All which then help you make …

An Open Book is Not Sexy

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A first date is supposed to be about enjoying each other’s company and finding out if you have chemistry and commonality…but also making sure you don’t do anything to turn your date off. Talking too much or revealing too much too soon is a turn-off. If your date ends up …

Are You Being Attentive Enough on Dates?

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If you’re too shy or uncomfortable to hold eye contact with someone you like then your body language is saying the opposite of what you feel. Your date will assume you’re just not into them. First dates can be scary and cause people to behave in nervous ways that send …