Dating can be confusing

Dating Can Be Confusing

Everyone is insecure on some level and anxiety frequently gets in the way of a great initial connection. I will help you stay grounded and give you clarity when you're feeling rejected, confused, angry, or emotional.

Dating is all about the Choices you make

Having lived and dated in New York City for more than 30 years, and having successfully coached hundreds of others all over the world since 2007, I have gotten very good at spotting red flags and deciphering human behavior. Everyone has issues, it's a matter of managing your own and picking a person who's issues don't clash with yours.

I will help you decide EXACTLY what you want and need in a relationship, identify your past patterns, raise your self-esteem, and create personal boundaries to aid you in choosing a great partner, then turning it into a healthy, lasting relationship.

Having lived and dated in New York City for more than 30 years, and having successfully coached hundreds of others all over the world since 2007, I have gotten very good at spotting red flags and deciphering human behavior. Everyone has issues, it's a matter of managing your own and picking a person who's issues don't clash with yours.

I will help you decide EXACTLY what you want and need in a relationship, identify your past patterns, raise your self-esteem, and create personal boundaries to aid you in choosing a great partner, then turning it into a healthy, lasting relationship.

Services Comments "You're very easy to talk to and enthusiastic about what you teach."

— Gabby, 25
Services Comments "I got engaged two weeks ago.
Thanks for all your excellent insight over the years."

— John, 46
Services Comments "Donna continues to prove she is always right, no matter how difficult the choice may be."

— Joyce, 32
Services Comments "I reached out to Donna and after just a first phone call felt deeply understood, which meant everything at that moment."

— Laura, 47
Slide "We have accomplished more together than I have in ten years of therapy, or alternative life coaching."

— Debra, 50
Services Comments "I'm such a better person because of you Donna Barnes."

— Kevin, 44
Transparent Comments "Donna clearly possesses both experience, and the gift of insight."

— Laura, 47
Services Comments "I wish I would have come across your advice earlier. I bet half the population are making these mistakes and don't know it."

— Tina, 25
Services Comments "Although my experience with a psychiatrist and other counselor were helpful, neither of them were able to show me which options truly existed, and how to make the right decisions. Donna always had the right advice."

— Lisa, 34
Services Comments "I found Donna's insight, feedback, and advice to be spot-on."

— Chicago, 39
Transparent Comments "I was able to achieve more with you in only 13 hours than I had in 40+ combined hours with all the other coaches I worked with."

— Braedan, 26
Transparent Comments "I was very confused before our conversation but now my situation is much more clear thanks to you! I have already started applying your advice and it's working."

— Leslie, 27
New York Dating Coach

Single Successfully

Learn how to flirt and make a great first impression.

Eliminate negative thinking and actions.

Spot and avoid waving red flags.

Let go of your past and move forward.

Break a pattern of choosing the wrong people.

Find the best way for you to meet someone new.

Learn how to make dating apps work for you.

Become comfortable being alone (so you can meet someone great!).

Gain insight and understanding of the opposite sex.

Improve your relationship with yourself.

Just Met Someone

Recognize and stop destructive dating habits.

Calm your fears and prevent sabotaging behavior.

Enforce healthy boundaries.

Slow the pace of your budding relationship.

Keep your expectations realistic.

Learn how and when to express your feelings.

When to talk about being exclusive.

Distinguish true love from hot lust.

Recognize a commitmentphobe, serial dater, or rebound before you get hurt.

Turn a new relationship into a lifetime partnership.

Coaching Services


"My appointment with you was beyond expectations.
Your insight, knowledge and personal experiences combine to offer much more than anyone I've previously met with."

Tony, 53
Emergency Coaching Session

Emergency Phone Session

Emergency Phone Session

Within 24 hours, possibly now, 
including nights and weekends.

ASAP within 24 hours,
including nights and weekends.


Phone and Skype Coaching

Phone or Skype Coaching

Phone or Skype Coaching

From the comfort of anywhere you prefer
— anywhere in the world.

From the comfort of anywhere you prefer — anywhere in the world.


In Person Coaching

In Person Consultation

In Person Consultation

Over a meal or coffee in the New York City or Philadelphia area.

Over a meal or coffee in the New York City or Philadelphia area.


Save Money With Coaching Packages

Coaching Packages

Coaching Packages

Save money with a multiple session package.
Sessions never expire, use at your own pace.

Save money with a multiple session package. Sessions never expire, use at your own pace.

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Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships: Recipes for Healthy Choices


Are you waiting for someone to change back into the person you fell in love with? Do you fear you won't find anyone better for you if you leave or let go? Are you confused about what went wrong? Donna's book bottom lines how to make your relationships healthy, and more importantly how to tell when things have gone bad.

Bad relationships are pretty much the same as junk food.

 "A welcome addition to the self-help genre that aims to heal body and mind." Kirkus Reviews

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