I know that it can be incredibly scary to feel vulnerable. However, if you want a long-lasting relationship you need to be able to express your inner thoughts and feelings to your partner, and be able to listen to his/her wants and needs.
Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” If the worst that could happen is to have your love leave you then you need to be brave. You need to take down your emotional wall and open up about your wants, needs, and desires. You need to allow yourself to be vulnerable or you will create exactly what you fear. You will cause him/her to leave you.
Real intimacy takes time to establish. It involves trust and mutually feeling safe to be vulnerable, allowing healthy self-disclosure without fearing being betrayed or misunderstood. It involves respect, tolerance, and always sharing how you feel—no secrets. In a truly intimate relationship, you will feel safe, loved, appreciated, and emotionally supported. Emotional intimacy is about knowing the good, the bad, the silly, and the ugly and loving each other anyway, unconditionally. It’s about having each other’s backs. A long-lasting relationship can never be achieved without real intimacy.