People Can Change
If They Want To

people can change if they want to

Individually or together I'll support you through getting your needs met, communicating more effectively, and moving forward. I'll help you understand, cope, process, and decide what you truly want; and take action.

Make the right choices for your relationship

Having lived and dated in New York City for more than 30 years, and having successfully coached hundreds of others all over the world since 2007, I have gotten very good at spotting red flags and deciphering human behavior. Everyone has issues, it's a matter of managing your own and picking a person who's issues don't clash with yours.

Too many people stay in the wrong relationship because they think it's the best they can get; or because they're afraid to be alone; or admit that they're not happy. Whatever is going on with you, either individually or as a couple, I will listen closely and together we'll figure out EXACTLY what is best for you!

Is your current partner good for you? Do you feel loved? I will help you decide whether or not he or she is the right one for you. Then help make your relationship the best it can possibly be, or help you get out and find someone better.

Having lived and loved in New York City for more than 30 years, and having successfully coached hundreds of others all over the world since 2007, I have gotten very good at spotting relationship red flags and deciphering human behavior. Everyone has issues, it's a matter of managing your own and picking a person who's issues don't clash with yours.

Too many people stay in the wrong relationship because they think it's the best they can get; or because they're afraid to be alone; or admit that they're not happy. Whatever is going on with you I will listen closely and together we'll figure out EXACTLY what is best for you!

Is your current partner good for you? Do you feel loved? I will help you decide whether or not your relationship is the right one for you. Then help make your relationship the best it can possibly be, or help you get out and find someone better.

Services Comments "You're very easy to talk to and enthusiastic about what you teach."

— Gabby, 25
Services Comments "I got engaged two weeks ago.
Thanks for all your excellent insight over the years."

— John, 46
Services Comments "Donna continues to prove she is always right, no matter how difficult the choice may be."

— Joyce, 32
Services Comments "I reached out to Donna and after just a first phone call felt deeply understood, which meant everything at that moment."

— Laura, 47
Slide "We have accomplished more together than I have in ten years of therapy, or alternative life coaching."

— Debra, 50
Services Comments "I'm such a better person because of you Donna Barnes."

— Kevin, 44
Transparent Comments "Donna clearly possesses both experience, and the gift of insight."

— Laura, 47
Services Comments "I wish I would have come across your advice earlier. I bet half the population are making these mistakes and don't know it."

— Tina, 25
Services Comments "Although my experience with a psychiatrist and other counselor were helpful, neither of them were able to show me which options truly existed, and how to make the right decisions. Donna always had the right advice."

— Lisa, 34
Services Comments "I found Donna's insight, feedback, and advice to be spot-on."

— Chicago, 39
Transparent Comments "I was able to achieve more with you in only 13 hours than I had in 40+ combined hours with all the other coaches I worked with."

— Braedan, 26
Transparent Comments "I was very confused before our conversation but now my situation is much more clear thanks to you! I have already started applying your advice and it's working."

— Leslie, 27
New York Dating Coach

Change Yourself

change yourself and your partner will respond differently to you.

Decide if you’re in a bad relationship and how to get out.

Move your relationship forward to marriage, starting a family, or parting ways civilly.

Calm your fears and prevent sabotaging behavior.

Stop destructive relationship habits.

Learn how to communicate effectively and get your needs met.

Reignite the romantic spark.

Recognize a commitmentphobe, serial dater, or rebound before you get hurt.

Eliminate negative thinking and actions.

Enforce healthy boundaries and raise your self-esteem.

CAN YOUR RELATIONSHIP BE SAVED?

Arguing, Deception, Secrets, Cheating, Betrayal, Abuse — I've been there and I understand.

Forgive or get out. (You never get nagging rights.)

Stop arguing and fight fair.

Keep your expectations realistic and express them properly.

Stay empowered and calm your insecurities.

Learn how and when to express your feelings.

Enforce healthy boundaries.

Repair your relationship and make amends.

End your relationship amicably with compassion.

Heal and move forward.

Coaching Services


"My appointment with you was beyond expectations.
Your insight, knowledge and personal experiences combine to offer much more than anyone I've previously met with."

Tony, 53
Emergency Coaching Session

Emergency Phone Session

Emergency Phone Session

Within 24 hours, possibly now, 
including nights and weekends.

ASAP within 24 hours,
including nights and weekends.


Phone and Skype Coaching

Phone or Skype Coaching

Phone or Skype Coaching

From the comfort of anywhere you prefer
— anywhere in the world.

From the comfort of anywhere you prefer — anywhere in the world.


In Person Coaching

In Person Consultation

In Person Consultation

Over a meal or coffee in the New York City or Philadelphia area.

Over a meal or coffee in the New York City or Philadelphia area.


Save Money With Coaching Packages

Coaching Packages

Coaching Packages

Save money with a multiple session package.
Sessions never expire, use at your own pace.

Save money with a multiple session package. Sessions never expire, use at your own pace.

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Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships: Recipes for Healthy Choices


Are you waiting for someone to change back into the person you fell in love with? Do you fear you won't find anyone better for you if you leave or let go? Are you confused about what went wrong? Donna's book bottom lines how to make your relationships healthy, and more importantly how to tell when things have gone bad.

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Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships: Recipes for Healthy Choices


Are you waiting for someone to change back into the person you fell in love with? Do you fear you won't find anyone better for you if you leave or let go? Are you confused about what went wrong? Donna's book bottom lines how to make your relationships healthy, and more importantly how to tell when things have gone bad.

Bad relationships are pretty much the same as junk food.

 "A welcome addition to the self-help genre that aims to heal body and mind." Kirkus Reviews

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