The First 3 to 6 Months of a Relationship

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The first six months of a relationship are the honeymoon phase. However, most relationships never last past three to six months. You have to protect your heart so you don’t get blindsided.

Many people are desperately looking for “the one”.  They hopefully go on date after date, trying not to get frustrated or bitter, wondering if it will ever happen for them — because it’s hard to really connect with someone. So when you do find someone amazing it fulfills your most pressing need and your next unresolved issue will come to the surface. That usually happens somewhere between the three and six month point.

People with commitment issues never have any signs until they find a great relationship. Or if there was trauma or abuse in someone’s past they may have been avoiding it, focusing instead on finding a relationship. Insecurity or low self-esteem can cause behavioral changes.

If you feel yourself starting to change tell your partner and take responsibility. Find a counselor to talk to or I’d be happy to help you. With help, you may be able to make your relationship even better.

If your partner is the one who is changing don’t take it personally. Stay empowered and don’t get needy. Let him/her know you’re there if they want to talk, and give him/her some space. But if you’re no longer getting your needs met then it may be time to leave.

So if you’re in a relationship that seems great and you’re thinking this may be “the one” don’t get carried away with your fantasies of “happily ever after.” Enjoy every moment one at a time and keep your thoughts in the present. Absolutely do not get married before knowing each other at least a year, ideally two. Relationships are easy when they’re right. Make sure yours is making you happy.