Told to Stop Yelling When You Didn’t Feel You Were?

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Have you been told, “Stop yelling at me,” when you didn’t feel like you were yelling? You may have even replied, “I’m not yelling, trust me, you’ll know when I am yelling.” However, what you need to hear is that you don’t have to raise your voice to be yelling …

Insecurity Is All In Your Head

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Everyone is insecure on some level. We can feel unwanted, unloved, unappreciated, inadequate, undeserving, neglected, and so on. Fear is mostly to blame. We fear abandonment, betrayal, intimacy, commitment, etc.  But all of our fears and insecurities are created by our thoughts. Which makes it all in our heads. Our thoughts …

Don’t Reject When Feeling Rejected

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It’s a defense mechanism to reject someone you feel rejected by. But if you’re feeling rejected by the person you’re in a relationship with you need to resist that instinct and communicate how you’re feeling. You need to find out what you don’t know. We tend to take everything personally when …

Instinct or Paranoia? How To Tell

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How do you feel when your partner isn’t with you? Do you worry about who he or she may potentially meet, or might be spending time with? Do you frequently call or text to check-up? Do you need constant contact and reassurance of his or her feelings for you? How …

Stop Making Excuses for Your Lover

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People do what they want to do. If you always remind yourself of that, it really is quite simple. As caring beings, we usually like to give people the benefit of the doubt. We frequently conjure up pleasant scenarios to explain away undesirable behavior: “he’s really busy at work,” “she’s …