Anything that you do frequently you’ll get better at. Practice makes perfect, right? It’s no different with dating. As you go out with a lot of different people you begin to stop getting nervous, you become less self-conscious, and it helps you stay grounded. All which then help you make better choices.
If you’re recently out of a long-term relationship or marriage, or if you’re just starting to date for the first time, go out on as many dates as you can even if you don’t think you’ll be interested in that person.
Benefits of Dating for Practice:
- Communicating with someone you’re not attracted to is so much easier than with someone you’re romantically drawn to.
- As you get to know someone you initially had no interest in you may find yourself very attracted to him or her.
- When you do get to have a date with some you’re hot for you’ll feel more confident.
So with that in mind ask out or accept a date from some people you don’t think you’re interested in. Put all your attention on your date. Find out who he or she is. What does she like to do, like to eat, what does she find funny? What are his goals for the next 5 years? Practice lots of casual conversation.
Then when you meet someone you find appealing you’ll be much more relaxed and confident —which is very attractive.
You’ll also find help in my book: Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships: Recipes for Healthy Choices